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Just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t happen

I came across a great quote to maintain your vitality, positivity and momentum. 

  
I believe the most important thing is to simply know what you want.

Once you know what you want, all you have to do after that is work hard to get it.

And if you really want it, really really want it… you will get it.

Why? 

Because someone wise once told me, “you will get what you want as long as you want it more than anything else.” 

Stay strong, have faith and carry on my lovely readers!

xxSerena 

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You CAN do it. Don’t believe that? Then read this. 

I really think you are stronger than you’re giving yourself credit for.

I went out with one of my most dear girlfriends, someone I have a lot of respect for because she’s not only the sweetest thing but she has a heart of gold. Truly.

She’s dropdead gorgeous but that’s besides the point.

I feel like sometimes we need some kind of “proof” that we really are stronger, more capable, more deserving than we think.

So for those of you who need to be reminded, read on.

Remember that time

Remember that time when you surprised yourself with your skills? You were the best at something. Maybe it was an awards ceremony in grade 6 where are you did a grand sweep. Maybe it was that time you volunteered at a charity event where you helped people with your kindness. Maybe it was your strength when you wanted to give up. Remember that time? We all have a few. Don’t quickly say I have none. Think about those things privately. Remember that time. If you have to, write it down. Remember how you felt. 

You are that person. Still. You can do that, and more. Just do it again.

Who relies on you?

Your mother, your father, your baby sibling, your older sibling, your best friend, your neighbor, your aunts, that woman in church, your partner, your lover, your coworker. 

There are people in your life that would not be able to do what they do so well if it weren’t for you. You bring the life jacket when they are drowning. You shine the light on a gloomy situation. You have accomplished some great things for other people. You have changed lives. Not one time. You have done this repeatedly. Really think. Those people need you. 

They need you because you are worth a whole hell of a lot.

Prepare and practice 

That wild dream you have? Spend some time thinking about it. Think what small steps you can do every day to work towards achieving that. Let’s say you want to be a rock musician. Maybe you should pick up your guitar and play it for 20 minutes every single day. Maybe you should visit your favorite band’s jam sessions and ask if you can play. Maybe you should create a repository of your favorite original melodies and record them. This way, when luck passes you by, as it always does, you will be prepared.

Let’s say you would like to be fit and muscular. Start taking brisk walks every day for 10 minutes. Next week increase it to 20 minutes. Then maybe lift some weights once a week. Then maybe go to a yoga class once a week. Stop drinking soda. Drink more water. This is taking care of your body. What you consistently put inside of it will slowly but surely reflect on the outside.

Be honest

Do what you want because you want to. Don’t do it for someone else. Get to know yourself. Spend time alone. Enjoy the company of yourself. Love yourself. Have hobbies that make you genuinely happy. Relish in playing golf, making pottery, watching old movies, jogging in nature, glass blowing, going to yoga, baking, learning to cook, sinking into a great novel, playing the piano, fixing your friend’s toilet or serving food at a homeless shelter. Or do none of those things. Do what you want to do.

Be honest about what you want. And then take action on that. Do what you desire. Make your life work for you. Knowing what you want is the first step to making it happen.

Understand your power

If you don’t ask, you don’t get. Ask for what you want. You have the power to get what you want. Be courageous and don’t worry about what other people think. If you want something, ask for it. You will get it. You are powerful. Find the courage inside of yourself, tread lightly and go forth.

Small steps

Take small steps but be consistent. You aren’t going to achieve that wild ostentatious goal in one day or one week or even one month. Give a little bit every day. Never miss a day. Consistency is more important then one large hit and run. 

Be confident.

  
No not the guy behind you. You.

Yes you. 

Go get it! 

xxSerena 

The Skill of Self Confidence

Here’s to the crazy ones: the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, you are a round peg in a square hole. You stick out from all the others. But don’t worry. You’re supposed to be different. And when people look at you – believe in yourself.  Have confidence. It’s a skill that supersedes even talent.

The Skills of Self Confidence:

1. Practice and Perseverance

You won’t get nervous if you’ve practiced and practiced so many times, that you could do it with your eyes closed. Do it so many times you’d never be nervous. Do it so many times over because that’s what you’re good at and that’s what you love to do. And when you fall down, get rejected, make mistakes? Get up. Don’t give up. Keep trying. You will succeed. And those who tell you that you won’t ever succeed? Acknowledge, and kindly surpass their opinion to keep going. Persevere because you believe in yourself and what you are capable of.

2. Catch them when they’re good

Build self confidence in others. Encourage them when they do well, are thoughtful or make an attempt in the right direction. Notice and the times they succeed or come close. This is for your children, your spouse, your coworkers, your parents, your friends, your manager or your staff. Don’t writhe in disappointment because they did something wrong, try and focus on what they did well because what you focus on, grows. The result here is two-fold. You helped to encourage success and your positivity will be returned one day, one way or another. You want proof of this? Watch the Movie Annie. (The original.) Soundtrack is awesome too.

3. Winners interpret feedback in their favour

Confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to. When your boss asks you how you think you did on that last performance and you tell her three ways you improved, what glowingly positive pieces of critical feedback you received from your clients, and present her with a list of tangible accomplishments – that’s confidence. Even if she thinks you did horribly.

Winners are confident, they build self confidence in others and they have practiced their skills for years, made mistakes and perfected their craft. I chose tennis great Li Na for the featured image of this post since she’s set such a great example for practicing the skills of confidence. Look her up, 60 Minutes did a great piece on her. It’s worth watching.

Here’s the TedxTalk this blog is inspired by, a great talk by Dr. Ivan Joseph, from Ryerson University: