Here’s to the crazy ones: the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, you are a round peg in a square hole. You stick out from all the others. But don’t worry. You’re supposed to be different. And when people look at you – believe in yourself. Have confidence. It’s a skill that supersedes even talent.
The Skills of Self Confidence:
1. Practice and Perseverance
You won’t get nervous if you’ve practiced and practiced so many times, that you could do it with your eyes closed. Do it so many times you’d never be nervous. Do it so many times over because that’s what you’re good at and that’s what you love to do. And when you fall down, get rejected, make mistakes? Get up. Don’t give up. Keep trying. You will succeed. And those who tell you that you won’t ever succeed? Acknowledge, and kindly surpass their opinion to keep going. Persevere because you believe in yourself and what you are capable of.
2. Catch them when they’re good
Build self confidence in others. Encourage them when they do well, are thoughtful or make an attempt in the right direction. Notice and the times they succeed or come close. This is for your children, your spouse, your coworkers, your parents, your friends, your manager or your staff. Don’t writhe in disappointment because they did something wrong, try and focus on what they did well because what you focus on, grows. The result here is two-fold. You helped to encourage success and your positivity will be returned one day, one way or another. You want proof of this? Watch the Movie Annie. (The original.) Soundtrack is awesome too.
3. Winners interpret feedback in their favour
Confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to. When your boss asks you how you think you did on that last performance and you tell her three ways you improved, what glowingly positive pieces of critical feedback you received from your clients, and present her with a list of tangible accomplishments – that’s confidence. Even if she thinks you did horribly.
Winners are confident, they build self confidence in others and they have practiced their skills for years, made mistakes and perfected their craft. I chose tennis great Li Na for the featured image of this post since she’s set such a great example for practicing the skills of confidence. Look her up, 60 Minutes did a great piece on her. It’s worth watching.
Here’s the TedxTalk this blog is inspired by, a great talk by Dr. Ivan Joseph, from Ryerson University: